Skill
Manages Actions and Behavior
Child adjusts actions, words, and behavior — first with steady adult guidance and later with increasing independence in familiar settings.
Ages 8–60 months
Why it matters
Behavioral self-regulation is the bridge between feeling an impulse and acting on it. A toddler learns to say "stop" instead of hitting; a preschooler waits a turn and uses gentle hands when frustrated. These capacities grow through repeated, supportive practice with trusted adults and make group life, friendship, and learning possible.
Builds toward this milestone
- manages actions and behavior with support of familiar adults. — Head Start ELOF
- manages actions, words, and behavior with increasing independence. — Head Start ELOF
What mastery looks like
- Uses words or signs, such as "stop" or "my turn," instead of physical reactions during conflict.
- Manages own actions and words with reminders, using gentle touches and friendly words.
- Waits a turn and refrains from aggressive behavior toward others.
How to observe it
- During a disagreement over a toy, does the child use words or gestures rather than grabbing or hitting?
- How much adult support does the child need to redirect an action, such as switching to gentle hands?
Accessibility
- Pair spoken reminders with simple gestures or picture cues for children who process language slowly.
- Model and practice replacement actions concretely rather than only stating what not to do.
Activities
Evidence
- CDC "Learn the Signs. Act Early." Developmental Milestones — U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention · 2022 · U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Early Atlas