Activity

Help Me Reach It

A gently out-of-reach toy invites a toddler to signal or ask a familiar adult for help.

Ages 8–30 months

Supports this milestone

  • learns to use adults as a resource to meet needs. — Head Start ELOF

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Materials

  • A favorite toy
  • A clear container with a lid, or a low shelf

Steps

  • Show the child the toy and let them try to get it.
  • Stay near and attentive, giving the child a moment to signal for help.
  • Respond warmly to any bid — a point, a reach, a sound, a word — and say what you understand.
  • Offer just enough help, then let the child finish, celebrating their request.
  • Name the exchange, for example "you asked, and I helped — we did it together."

Variations

  • Use a container the child needs help opening to practice asking again.
  • Place the toy higher for older toddlers so they lead you to it.

Differentiation

  • For pre-verbal children, accept and reinforce gestures and sounds.
  • For talkers, gently model a help word or short phrase to imitate.

Accessibility

  • Honor any communication mode, including signs or picture cards.
  • Respond promptly and consistently so help-seeking feels worthwhile.

Safety

  • Keep containers and shelves stable; avoid small parts that pose a choking risk.

Practices these skills

Evidence